The Art of Being an Ambivert

Being in the middle isn't a compromise; it's a beautiful blend of the best of both worlds.

Sep 07, 2023

“kind of a loner but also sort of a people person.”

Okay, I put that phrase pretty much everywhere, and most of the time, people get intrigued by what I mean; some say it does speak to them a lot but couldn’t find their definition or explanation of it, and some would say “huh" “interesting” pretty much words or questions about being weird and open-minded? I guess so… Well, continue reading this letter and see if you can tell me what I mean. :)

Oh, by the way, before we continue. I want to THANK YOU for being here, for clicking the link, for the email newsletter, for subscribing, and for giving this a shot. This means a lot! ❤️

Someone asked me a few days ago, “Why now? Why start this now?” - Honestly, I had no idea what to answer. I mean, I have a lot of answers, but I can’t seem to narrow it down… I just realised that this is an experiment—an experiment and journey of what it means to you and me. I wrote an open letter about this and plan to publish it on my birthday in two weeks. Yes, my upcoming birthday is on Thursday, and I was born on Thursday. In Europe, they call it the first day of Fall.

I'm an ambivert who walks the delicate line between introversion and extroversion. It's like having a dance between solitude and social interaction. This dance has proven that, as an ambivert, I have always been curious about the world and eager to experience everything it has to offer.

My background is a real melting pot of cultures—the Philippines, with a mix of everything, yes, literally. Growing up, I got to experience the beauty of different worlds colliding, which shaped me into someone who truly values the richness of diversity. This perspective helps me bridge gaps between cultures and understand people's stories.

In my early years, I participated in various clubs and extracurricular activities in school, such as the Cheer squad, swimming team, and glee club. However, my reasons for joining these activities were not solely because I was an extrovert but rather because I wanted to explore and gain insights into what it was like to be part of something and determine if it was worth my time and effort.

My experiences in these clubs during grade school and high school taught me that I didn't have to be part of every group. Still, I needed to find my strengths and identify the groups that brought out the best in me while allowing me to nurture my solitude. This understanding helped me immensely when I went to university. I only joined two clubs: the school newspaper and peer groups. These groups aligned with my interests and allowed me to continue my journey of self-discovery as an ambivert.

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In an age where social media and technology often dominate our lives, it's easy to lose touch with genuine human connections. I find solace in those moments of solitude where I can reflect, write, and create meaningful stories that shed light on the struggles and triumphs of individuals in our global community.

But then, I thrive on human interaction. It's about reaching out, connecting with people from all walks of life, and understanding their stories. It's about building bridges between cultures and fostering empathy and understanding.

As an ambivert, I remind myself and others that being in the middle isn't a compromise; it's a beautiful blend of the best of both worlds. In this middle ground, we can bring art, language, and people together, creating a tapestry of stories that touch the hearts of those we encounter on this incredible journey called life.

And if you're curious to explore the world of ambiversion further, here are some friendly book, movie, poetry and famous personalities (I admire) recommendations to guide you:

"Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking" by Susan Cain is a treasure trove of insights about introversion and the spectrum of personalities, including ambiversion. It's like a friendly guide to understanding the introverted side of your ambivert nature.
"The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World" by Marti Olsen Laney is a great companion for ambiverts like you. It delves into the strengths of introverts and provides practical tips for navigating various social situations – a friendly nod to your adaptability.

"The Extroverted Writer: An Author's Guide to Marketing and Building a Platform" by Amanda Luedeke: Even though it's aimed at writers, this book offers valuable lessons for ambiverts in any field. It's like a friendly chat with a mentor who shares tips on maximising your diverse personality traits.

"The Perks of Being a Wallflower" (Movie) This coming-of-age film beautifully portrays the life of an introverted character. Still, it also explores the complexities of introversion and extroversion, making it relatable for ambiverts.

"Frasier" (TV Series) The character of Dr. Frasier Crane in this popular sitcom is often seen as an ambivert. He's a psychiatrist who enjoys solitude and social interactions, and his journey through the series provides an exciting perspective on ambiversion.

"Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind" (Movie) - This thought-provoking film delves into the intricacies of relationships and personalities, making it an excellent choice for those interested in the complexities of human nature, including ambiversion.

Rupi Kaur's Poetry: Rupi Kaur's poetry collections, such as "Milk and Honey" and "The Sun and Her Flowers," often touch on themes of self-discovery and introspection, which can resonate with ambiverts navigating their unique personality traits.

Mary Oliver's Poetry: Mary Oliver's poems frequently explore the connection between nature, solitude, and self-reflection, offering a soothing and contemplative reading experience for ambiverts.

Oprah Winfrey: Oprah is known for her ability to connect with people on a deep level while valuing her moments of solitude for reflection and self-care. Her journey and success as a media mogul reflect the strengths of ambiversion.

J.K. Rowling: The beloved author of the Harry Potter series, J.K. Rowling, has spoken about her ambivert nature. She's a skilled writer who spent much time in solitary creativity and a public figure who engaged with fans and the media.

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